Having a hard Conversation: Mercury opposite Pluto

When we are emotionally activated, while it’s good to examine our triggers and not always believe our stories, it might also be reflective that a conversation needs to happen…

Whether it’s about how something hurt us, offended us, or how something unjust was said or perhaps how power dynamics are wielded unconsciously.

This planetary aspect is about honesty…

With others and with ourselves...

And the ability to go there, beneath the waters to the depths of emotion; to the depths of where we feel vulnerable; to speak up for what touches us the most, and clearly matters to us personally, even if it doesn’t seem like a big deal to others.

Maybe what activates us is a personal trigger and is more about ourselves, our own wounds, and our subjective thoughts. In this case, look within. Detangle what it is that’s really bothering you, why, and what you have control over to sooth yourself.

It could be that what activates us is a real threat, an unconscious statement made by another that hurts, or a real problem of how someone is exerting control or power over others.

In this case, we can use dialogue to bring about some semblance of justice. We can help others see how they might be acting problematically (not that they are problematic- separating behavior from identity). We can ask for support from others. Maybe we can take some form of political action.

Whatever is going on for you, try to separate yourself from the emotions without bypassing them. Feel them (amygdala activation) and sift through them, as though from a distance (prefrontal cortex activation). Maybe go on a walk while doing so to help process- this literally helps us to calm our nervous system and helps us not get stuck in a feeling or a ruminating thought.